“God loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life” was a slogan I heard over and over again as I grew up. As a young person, this slogan meant that all my plans would be wonderful because God loved me. Now that I am older, I understand that this slogan had more to do with the Christian gospel’s understanding of salvation than it did with guiding me down the primrose path of life. Yet, it still reverberates in my head when I experience hardship, pain, and loss. How does one square a belief in the love of God with a series of professional and personal failures and hardships?
The seeming contradictions between stated beliefs and life experience make faith complicated. For me, many of the cherished beliefs I held imploded, and what was once a fortress came crashing down as life experience smashed up against them like a battering ram. In the aftermath, the alternative shelters of cynical doubt or blind faith beckon. For many in this predicament, we run perilously between both extremes, without a strong sense of security that the fortress once provided.
Yet there are so many, past and present, who have experienced the difficult conflict between what was held to be the truth and what was experienced in life. Knowing this gives me comfort that I am not alone. I am reminded of the biblical narrative of Joseph as one example. He was told by God through a sequence of dreams that he would be great one day—so great, in fact that his own brothers would come and bow down in reverence for him. He had been given a glimpse of his destiny as God’s dearly loved child, and perhaps he believed his path to that destiny would be paved with gold. Instead, his gilded trip to glory turned into an attempted murder by his own brothers, his enslavement, and spending a portion of his life in prison having been falsely accused of various crimes he did not commit. How could this be the path to glory God supposedly promised to provide for Joseph?
Joseph’s trust in a God who loved him and had compassion on him was now being challenged by this confusing demonstration of divine care. Sitting in his jail cell, I’m sure Joseph wondered about his dreams of glory as he grappled with his nightmarish existence. How could things go so badly for one who put his trust in a loving God?
The story of Joseph’s life ends up in glory. Made second in command of all of Egypt, his position ultimately saves his family and the people of Israel from famine and starvation. Despite the contradiction between his life experience and what he thought he knew about God, Joseph came to affirm that God is good and trustworthy. How did he arrive at this conclusion?
Even though the narrative doesn’t state this explicitly, it is hard to imagine that Joseph didn’t wrestle with God during all that time in prison. Like his father Jacob, Joseph wrestled with God in the seemingly contradictory details of his life experience. In the process of this wrestling, God gave him a new perspective and a deeper understanding. But that new perspective is not lightly gained. Noted author and pastor Craig Barnes poignantly describes the emergence of new perspectives as the very process of total conversion:
“The deep fear behind every loss is that we have been abandoned by the God who should have saved us. The transforming moment in Christian conversion comes when we realize that even God has left us. We then discover it was not God, but our image of God that abandoned us…. Only then is change possible.”(1)
Indeed, Joseph reveals his new perspective to his brothers who betrayed him: “As for you, you meant evil against me but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive” (Genesis 50:20). This is no biblical cliche. Joseph did witness God’s intervention and care. But not in the way he expected. If we know intuitively that life doesn’t always go as planned, perhaps we too can gain a new perspective and a new vision as a result of wrestling through the contradictions and conundrums. Perhaps as we realize that though our image of God has abandoned us, the real God will yet be revealed. It is a perspective not easily gained and it may not come from our eyes, but from God’s eyes.
Margaret Manning is a member of the speaking and writing team at Ravi Zacharias International Ministries in Seattle, Washington.
(1) M. Craig Barnes, When God Interrupts: Finding New Life Through Unwanted Change. (Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press, 1996), 123.