A Partner for Accountability

 Galatians 6:1-10

An accountability partner is able to perceive what we can’t see when blind spots and weaknesses block our vision. Such a person serves as a tool in God’s hand to promote spiritual growth, and he or she watches out for our best interest. When choosing this type of confidant, look for these characteristics:

1. Godly. A person who walks in the Spirit will offer genuine wisdom based on biblical principles rather than personal opinion.

2. Trustworthy. No matter what you share with this individual, you must be certain that he or she will keep everything in the strictest confidence.

3. Accepting. He or she must allow you to be yourself–frailties and all–and not try to remake you into someone “perfect.”

4. Courageous. A good accountability partner will lovingly confront you with the truth, even when it hurts (Eph. 4:15).

5. Forgiving. When you make mistakes, trust is built through mutual forgiveness.

6. Edifying. Don’t choose someone with an overly critical attitude that will make you feel worthless. Love edifies and builds up (Eph. 4:29). It never destroys.

7. Encouraging. You don’t want someone with a checklist, who judges or acts like a prophet. Instead, choose someone who takes great joy in encouraging you.

We all can benefit from someone who is able to say what we need to hear without making us feel threatened. Answerability provides checks and balances that promote spiritual growth and protect us from pitfalls. If you don’t already have an accountability partner, pray for that person today.

“The Unbearable Lightness of Being”

 I’m at an age in life when enough of it has passed that I can make some comparisons. The last five to ten years have been strange. I recently read some essays by Timothy Garton Ash about the period he calls the decade with “no name”—the turn of the millennium to the present. It is indeed a decade in which we have seen some extraordinary events, some dreadful acts of violence, an ongoing range of catastrophes, and some of the worst economic and moral failures that burst the bubble of unending prosperity and further shuttered confidence in many of our institutions.

 Many years ago, the Czech writer Milan Kundera wrote of “the unbearable lightness of being.”Like many others, he sensed the hollowing out of existence, the thinning out of life, the emptying of meaning that seems to occur under modern conditions. One friend of mine calls this “cultural vaporization.” The thing is, this is not some vague idea or esoteric notion. It is a description of how life is really being perceived.

 Many people today seem convinced that the point of life is that there isno point. We face what Nietzsche call “Das Nichte”—or, the nothing. Our public philosophy tells us that we are the result of blind force plus chance and/or necessity. Yet our movies are filled with romantic longings, visions of other worlds, the hunger for transcendence, and love stories between vampires or other worlds where there is a greater unity of life and being. In other words, we face a massive contradiction between what one set of experts tells us is real and what many artists compel us to hope for and reflect on. And somewhere in the middle are our own, normal, day-to-day lives.

 Chance and choice: is that it? Does all of life come down to this? A roll of the dice, the power of freedom, and the lottery of life? Many centuries ago, an honest voice cried,”Vanity of vanities! All is vanity”(Ecclesiastes 1:2). Why? He was reflecting on life. He was seeking happiness. He sought justice, he sought satisfaction, he sought the meaning of it all. And his journey was conducted under the sun—in other words, he looked at life from within life. It was as Derek Kidner called it “a world without windows.”

 However, his observations do not end there. This book opens us to another perspective, one in which there is a God, and a God that sees, knows, and acts. The book does not descend into some simple resolution of life’s hard problems nor its on-going ambiguities. But what it does do is add something. It adds a presence, it includes a perspective, it invites reflection: If there is more to life than meets the eye, more than can be measured or managed by the senses, then this indeed makes a big difference today.

 With such a difference, weight or weightiness would be restored. Absence would be filled, space would be occupied, and meaninglessness confronted. As Nietzsche wrote, “He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.” This is a far cry from the new atheists who invite us to shed the childish and wicked delusions of whys and hows and accept emptiness. But what if when the God who is there and is not silent is a God of grace, a God of love, and a God of justice? To those empty, confused, or seeking, the unbearable lightness of being can be met in the abundance of his fullness, a gift by the way of grace, not effort!

 Stuart McAllister is vice president of training and special projects at Ravi Zacharias International Ministries in Atlanta, Georgia. 

 

Charles Spurgeon’s Morning and Evening

Morning    “The sword of the Lord, and of Gideon.” / Judges 7:20

Gideon ordered his men to do two things: covering up a torch in an earthen
pitcher, he bade them, at an appointed signal, break the pitcher and let the
light shine, and then sound with the trumpet, crying, “The sword of the Lord,
and of Gideon! the sword of the Lord, and of Gideon!” This is precisely what
all Christians must do. First, you must shine; break the pitcher which
conceals your light; throw aside the bushel which has been hiding your candle,
and shine. Let your light shine before men; let your good works be such, that
when men look upon you, they shall know that you have been with Jesus. Then
there must be the sound, the blowing of the trumpet. There must be active
exertions for the ingathering of sinners by proclaiming Christ crucified. Take
the gospel to them; carry it to their door; put it in their way; do not suffer
them to escape it; blow the trumpet right against their ears. Remember that
the true war-cry of the Church is Gideon’s watchword, “The sword of the Lord,
and of Gideon!” God must do it, it is his own work. But we are not to be idle;
instrumentality is to be used–“The sword of the Lord, and of Gideon!” If we
only cry, “The sword of the Lord!” we shall be guilty of an idle presumption;
and if we shout, “The sword of Gideon!” alone, we shall manifest idolatrous
reliance on an arm of flesh: we must blend the two in practical harmony, “The
sword of the Lord, and of Gideon!” We can do nothing of ourselves, but we can
do everything by the help of our God; let us, therefore, in his name determine
to go out personally and serve with our flaming torch of holy example, and
with our trumpet tones of earnest declaration and testimony, and God shall be
with us, and Midian shall be put to confusion, and the Lord of hosts shall
reign forever and ever.

Evening  “In the evening withhold not thy hand.” / Ecclesiastes 11:6

In the evening of the day opportunities are plentiful: men return from their
labour, and the zealous soul-winner finds time to tell abroad the love of
Jesus. Have I no evening work for Jesus? If I have not, let me no longer
withhold my hand from a service which requires abundant labour. Sinners are
perishing for lack of knowledge; he who loiters may find his skirts crimson
with the blood of souls. Jesus gave both his hands to the nails, how can I
keep back one of mine from his blessed work? Night and day he toiled and
prayed for me, how can I give a single hour to the pampering of my flesh with
luxurious ease? Up, idle heart; stretch out thy hand to work, or uplift it to
pray; heaven and hell are in earnest, let me be so, and this evening sow good
seed for the Lord my God.

The evening of life has also its calls. Life is so short that a morning of
manhood’s vigour, and an evening of decay, make the whole of it. To some it
seems long, but a four-pence is a great sum of money to a poor man. Life is so
brief that no man can afford to lose a day. It has been well said that if a
great king should bring us a great heap of gold, and bid us take as much as we
could count in a day, we should make a long day of it; we should begin early
in the morning, and in the evening we should not withhold our hand; but to win
souls is far nobler work, how is it that we so soon withdraw from it? Some are
spared to a long evening of green old age; if such be my case, let me use such
talents as I still retain, and to the last hour serve my blessed and faithful
Lord. By his grace I will die in harness, and lay down my charge only when I
lay down my body. Age may instruct the young, cheer the faint, and encourage
the desponding; if eventide has less of vigorous heat, it should have more of
calm wisdom, therefore in the evening I will not withhold my hand.

Reflections on the Evening

At evening withhold not your hand.   Ecclesiastes 11:6

In the evening of the day opportunities are plentiful: Men return from their work, and the zealous soul-winner finds time to share widely the love of Jesus. Do I have no evening work for Jesus? If I have not, let me no longer withhold my hand from a service that requires wholehearted endeavor. Sinners are perishing for lack of knowledge; he who loiters may find his shoes red with the blood of souls. Jesus gave both His hands to the nails. How can I keep back one of mine from His blessed work? Night and day He toiled and prayed for me. How can I give a single hour to the pampering of my body with luxurious ease? Up, lazy heart; stretch out your hand to work, or lift it up to pray. Heaven and hell are serious; so must I be, and this evening I should sow good seed for the Lord my God.

The evening of life also has its calls. Life is so short that a morning of manhood’s strength and an evening of decay make up the whole of it. To some it seems long, but a dollar is a great sum of money to a poor man. Life is so brief that no man can afford to lose a day. It has been well said that if a great king were to bring us a great heap of gold and bid us take as much as we could count in a day, we would make a long day of it; we would begin early in the morning, and in the evening we would not withhold our hand.

Winning souls is far nobler work; so how is it that we quit so soon? Some are spared to a long evening of green old age; if such is my case, let me use any talents I still retain and serve my blessed and faithful Lord to the final hour. By His grace I will die with my boots on and lay down my commission only when I lay down my body. Age may instruct the young, cheer the faint, and encourage the despondent. If evening has less stifling heat, it should have more calm wisdom; therefore in the evening I will not withhold my hand.

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