Today’s Scripture: Romans 15:2

“Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up.”

Selfishness is so easy to see in someone else but so difficult to recognize in ourselves. Moreover, there are degrees of selfishness as well as degrees of subtlety in expressing it. One person’s selfishness may be crass and obvious, while ours will likely be more delicate and refined.

Several areas of selfishness may be observed in believers. One of them is selfishness with our interests. Paul wrote in Philippians 2:4, “let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” In using the word interests, Paul was undoubtedly referring to the concerns and needs of other people, but I’m going to use it in a narrow sense to mean subjects we’re interested in.

What are our interests? At this stage of our lives, my wife and I are interested in our grandchildren. We like to talk about them and show pictures of them to our friends. The problem is that our friends like to do the same. So when we’re with them, whose grandchildren will we talk about? The answer, of course, is both if we and our friends are sensitive to the interests of each other. But if one or both couples are not sensitive, the conversation is apt to be one-sided, or else we find ourselves waiting for our turn to share instead of showing a genuine interest in the other couple’s grandchildren.

A good test of the degree of selfishness in our interests would be to reflect on the conversation after you’ve been with someone (or with another couple). Ask yourself how much time you spent talking about your interests compared to listening to the other person. (Excerpt taken from Respectable Sins)

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