For the weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood], but they are mighty before God for the overthrow and destruction of strongholds.
— 2 Corinthians 10:4 (AMPC)
My father was a very selfish man. Everything in our house was about him. My mother was afraid of him and did everything in her power to keep him happy. He drank a lot, physically abused my mother, was verbally, emotionally, and sexually abusive to me, and my life in general was miserable. Because of all these things, I developed the belief early on that if I didn’t take care of myself, no one would.
Perhaps, like me, you also had poor examples in life and need to “un-learn” some things you learned growing up. Be honest: How do you respond when you don’t get what you want? Do you become angry? Do you grumble and complain? Are you able to trust God to take care of you or do you live in fear that if you don’t take care of yourself, no one will take care of you? Believing you have to take care of yourself leads to selfishness, which leads to an unhappy life.
The Holy Spirit is a great teacher. He will help you learn the lessons you need to know in order to truly value, care for, and love others.
Prayer Starter: Father, help me un-learn every bad lesson I have learned in the past and set me free to learn to love others the way You want me to love them, amen.